This post is for all the women who look at themselves in the mirror with doubt, hide their pain, and question their self-worth. I am speaking directly to you in hopes that I may reach the deepest part of your spirit that has ever been crushed, dampened or bruised. Though you may struggle to see your worth at times, I see you and I value you. Others may confuse your tone and tenacity for anger or become intimidated by your drive, but I beckon you to come out from the shadows.
I see your dried-up tears and false bravado. I want so badly to ask you who are you trying to be so brave for? Is it for society that has forced you to wear that “S” on your chest or is it because of your community that encourages you to hide behind that smile. The concept of the “Strong Black Woman” surfaced as a response to negative images surrounding womanhood and has allowed Black women to rewrite their narrative and cast themselves in a positive light. The Strong Black Woman is resilient, able to handle more stress than the average person, self-reliant, controlled, successful with a strong work ethic, and takes on tasks that seem impossible.
In either case, I must set the record straight. While I agree that you are amazing, powerful, precious, and a sight to behold the one thing that you are not is superwoman. It is important for you and others to know that you are only a woman. A woman that has limits, gets tired, needs a break, and has to rest. As
In closing to all my Brown girls, it is okay to not be okay. We will hear you when you say when enough is enough. The world will continue if you take the time to rest. Practice exercising the use of “NO” and most importantly engage in self-care life nobody’s business because we need you.